Some are uncomfortable or unpleasant emotions, and that creates a lot of people refuse to feel them. Frequent requests for consultation are “I want to disappear anxiety”, “do not want to get angry,” “I want to stop being sad”. My recommendation in this regard is clear, Do not be afraid to feel.
Are they really as bad emotions? The answer is clear: NO
“I need to feel the thrill of life, the turmoil around me”
Emotions play an important role, we provide information much faster than reason. Cancel this function it is to limit or reduce our capacities.
Emotions can be pleasant or unpleasant, generating the desire to disappear when they make us feel bad. However, we can adapt to our emotions to our advantage. To understand this, use the metaphor sneak the car, which states that we have to get fuel. Clearly in this case the problem is not the snitch, if not the lack of gasoline, so just ignore the light symbol will generate a problem. So it is with emotion, ignore or challenge it may pose a bigger problem than the discomfort that generates the emotion itself.
On the other hand, applying the criteria emotions logic, reason, demands, “should” only make the situation worse, become acute or prolonged; for example “you should not be sad”, “it is absurd to feel that way,” “I have no right to be angry.” If you allow yourself to feel the emotion will flow naturally.
So what to do? Accept what you feel, hear the excitement, try to understand what lies behind it need to cover it. And something more, not let it dominate. Here the limit to be considered, what defines emotion as an ally or an enemy.
Anger is the emotion that encourages me to defend myself when my boundaries are being violated, sadness helps me to absorb a loss, fear warns me of danger, but when any of these emotions dominate, the consequences will not be positive. When the anger becomes destructive anger, sadness plunges us and isolates or fear paralyzes us, be in these situations when the emotion becomes our enemy.
“You hold on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are who end up burned.”
REMEMBER
You have the right to feel. We do not choose our feelings, emotions are there for a reason. But we must be clear that one thing to have the right to feel and quite another is what we do with these emotions.
Be compassionate with yourself. Do not be afraid to feel, but regardless of the emotion that floods your body, strive to do what is beneficial and good for you. Accept emotion, Send her away, listen and choose how to resolve the situation that you inform emotion.